Coffee Talk: How to Live Everyday with Joy and Gratitude

I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.  I don’t believe in coincidence, but I believe in divine, universal moments. Remembering this magic truth often escapes me during the normal hustle and bustle of the daily grind. Sitting in rush-hour traffic and spilling coffee all over my work pants doesn’t make me feel very universal or divine. In fact, most days can get off track in a split second if you let them – which of course I do because I’m a human. Try as I might to be perfectly optimistic and joyful all the time – moments do come where I let worry creep in, when I don’t feel thankful, or I let myself get down for not being more, doing more, trying more.  It’s an ugly cycle, but I’ve learned a little trick to keep my ass in check and to make me feel gratitude even when I don’t think I can find one reason.

Every day I write down three moments of joy. I keep a journal and write them down.  They can be the small things, the big things, or the in-between things.  Did your coffee taste good this morning? Jot that down. Moment of joy.  What was one thing that made you smile today? Did you have a good conversation with a coworker? Did you get to have a date night with your love? Jot it down. It can be 4 words or 4 paragraphs – there are no rules as long as you can muster up just 3 things to be thankful for.

As I have done this exercise, I have found myself not only being more thankful – but happier and more content. It’s easy to forget the amazing things that happen to us throughout a day because we have short attention spans. We are easily distracted by work, our favorite TV shows, group chats, and liking our friends pictures on Instagram that we forget the AMAZING happy things that happen to us in one day – even if they are minute.

I wish I could take full credit for this idea, but I have to give it to Sheryl Sandberg. Sheryl is the COO of Facebook and a businesswoman by day, but she is so much more than just that title. She is an author, a mother, a friend, a woman who has survived the loss of her husband, an empathetic being, and trailblazer. She was in Kansas City in May for her new book, Option B, and a small group of us were able to meet her and talk life, Option B, and Lean In. She told us that after the loss of her husband she was unable to find the joy in everyday life until she began writing down her three moments of joy in a journal. At first, she said they were small, but as she kept going, she continued to find more joy and happiness in her daily life.

This was a really powerful lesson for me. Here is a woman who lost the love of her life, and she was still able to find joy, happiness, and resiliency – what was my excuse? I sat in traffic too long? I had one bad day at work? BOO HOO. I knew I needed to change my attitude, and this was just the ticket.

The popular saying says that, “Life’s too short”, and while that is true, life is also so long. Long enough to evolve, to be thankful, to find joy, to be hopeful, to become the type of person you want to be, to endure sadness and loss, but to also rebuild and gain life that you love. While things may not always be 110% rockstar days all the time, I find comfort in knowing that as long as I remain grateful and find joy in the little things, a rockstar day is just around the corner, and I hope you find comfort in this, too.

Today’s *Three* Moments of Joy:

  1. I am so excited and happy to be sharing this tool and truth with others. I hope this helps you as much as it helped me.
  2. I am looking forward to an extended weekend of relaxation with Matt and with family! Happy 4th of July!
  3. I can’t wait for the arrival of our new little puppy, Francois aka Cois aka Frank the Tank – our little French bulldog in 2 weeks!
  4. BONUS: My coffee is pretty bomb today……





2 Comments Add yours

  1. Sarah says:

    Thanks for sharing Alex! I’ve been having good luck with setting intentions for each day, something i learned in yoga. When good or beautiful things occur to me I try and take a mental snapshot which is kind of similar to what you’re saying here. I can dig it!

    1. Alex says:

      That’s a great idea. Yoga and intention setting is always a good practice too!

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